In pondering your polyamoury I was wondering: Is it a lifestyle choice or is it something you are born as? in other words, could you choose to be monogamous? Or would that be like someone who is gay trying to be straight. Like a redhead deciding that they wanted to be blonde and bleach as they may-they would still actuallly be redhead. Like 10,000 spoons when all you need is a knife. No wait that one doesn't fit my metaphorical scheme, hehehhe. Just curious.

I like Debrief. Especially the panel where A and W are touching fingers over the table. Hee hee. I like Ellen's "10,000 spoons when all you need is a knife" metaphorical scheme, personally. I never realized just how deep and apt that lyric was.

Ellen, I've been thinking about your question for some time actually. I think the answer is yes. Someone asserted to me recently that the most mature relationships were Open Relationships. I think that's malarky as a blanket statement. I think openess in relationships is a pretty good sign of maturity in the relationship, but that doesn't necessarily translate to an Open Relationship. Polyamory isn't for everyone. Though some might argue that as animals we're supposed to be have sex with a variety of people in order to pursue the best possible survival of the species. But people are terribly jealous creatures (I'll not drag in the social implications here...) and one could probably argue that our jealousies also work toward the survival of the species. This is all wonky usage of biology, in my opinion. But what I can say is that I am enjoying moving in this space, and that it seems like the right fit for me, and that I feel that in some fundamental, essential way that extends beyond my particular set of life circumstances.

Now, let's ponder the idea of brain sex and see if that takes us anywhere...http://www.mindhacks.com/blog/2005/07/what_on_earth_is_br.html